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It's sweet to me that you relate to it so much! thank you for sharing!

i LOVE how you phrased this Colby! fully resonates with me!

ah that is so interesting that you've never experienced a taboo on it. I dont know what is your gender, i wonder if it's a things amongst women..

@@CupofEmpathy I'm female. I'm just not sure how this taboo would look like. I also had my very best and dear friend breaking up with me because they decided with her therapist that I was bad for her. That loss was heavy.

thanks so much!!

Thank youuuu

ah that's good to know that this scarcity thinking might be something to explore more! thanks for your input!

One thing that helps a ton is recognizing that everything that we are saying "yes" to, as in, how we spend or direct our time, energy, and other resources, also means that we are saying "no" to something else. So if we want to have friendships that are truly nourishing and uplifting, we have to reclaim our energy from relationships that are far less serving. It's actually an act of love to both ourselves and to those around us: if our relationship with another person isn't fully serving either or both of us, than it is standing in the way, and taking the space, of something much better. When you understand what you stand FOR, it's much easier to be more selective about how we spend our time and energy. It's important to remember, it's not against anybody, it's not a reflection of anybody's worthiness or beauty as a human being, it's merely a matter of alignment.

I've never done that, and I don’t think I ever imagined it was even possible.

@@nomadrose Im glad it made this video then!

so far no follow up (yet), but thanks for letting me know that you're interested!

Thank you!

You wonder if you'd be persuaded to go back because of a bonding exit talk, while that's not a good idea? I'd say if you're concerned about that maybe dont do it.. i think a talk like this with an ex is pretty rare. I didnt have this with any of my other exes. I stayed friends with this one :-)

I've never had a limit with the free version..you're using chatgpt.com/?

@@CupofEmpathy yes...😕ill do a screenshot next time I try it and share.

cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/

Glad to hear that Carol!!

haha ok, why not?

@@CupofEmpathy Somehow didn't want a bot to be able to help me through some emotional challenges I was facing but it totally did. My views on A.I. were challenged! Thx for the tip, wouldn't have tried it if not for your vid :) love all your NVC tips btw.

thanks so much, glad to hear that it was helpful :-)

thanks a lot Anne!

yay, happy to hear that!

thanks, yeah i know, however last time when i clipped it my hair bumped against it and the sound was actually a bit soft. so this was my second attempt haha!

In what way did you see the internet has ruined human interaction in schools? I hear your mixed feelings! And thanks so much if you'd be willing to share this with school administrators!! Havent read the Gabor book, thanks for the recommendation.

@@CupofEmpathy Thanks for asking... briefly and quickly--- They build intimacy with machines rather than humans, scrolling and gaming as their #1 activity. They miss the electro-chemical-neurological event that happens when people meet in person. Their brain is flooded with dopamine, they have no room for serotonin. They don't know the wonderful satisfaction of 'working hard at work worth doing'. They have little appetite for a ‘normal’ life. They all believe they have an anxiety disorder because they have no skills in conversation. They have few conflict-resolution skills. Social media makes it difficult to engage in any sort of long-form discussion, so interactions are reduced to sound bites and zingers. Internet connectivity has enabled us to further leave our tribe. Instead of being very important to a few, they feel that in order to be of importance, they need to be famous. They compare themselves not with the other kids in school, but with the coolest people in the world, who have stylists and shoppers and cosmetic surgery. So, they have little appetite or satisfaction with a 'normal, humble life'. Real friendship takes a lot of work, is not as exciting as TikTok, so why bother? But probably the most heart-breaking for me. . . They cannot be vulnerable (human) because anything they do or say at any minute can be shared, permanently, across the globe, exposing them to vicious ridicule from seemingly the entire planet. So, many retreat into the safety of irony, which is the enemy of sincerity, which is the enemy of connection, which is humanity’s #1 need. And that explains the profound increase in mental health ‘disorders’. To quote Robert Bly, “We have drunk beer for so long, we’ve forgotten the taste of real wine.”

@@CupofEmpathy And Mate’s book. So many amazing ideas: On addiction: It’s hard to get enough of something that almost works. On culture: the quality of a culture is measured by how well it meets the needs of the people. Our culture is a fight between belonging and authenticity, and both are losing. The difference between happiness and pleasure Disconnection in all its guises--alienation, loneliness, loss of meaning, and dislocation--is becoming our culture’s most plentiful product. Our modern lives are unnatural from in utero to grave: from stressed mothers living away from extended family giving birth in hospitals, to eating industrial food, being raised in schools among strangers, meaningless careers focussed not on contribution but on acquisition. . . And so many more. . . And very well-written: full without being dense, at times poetic without being flowery.

Ach, feeling mixed too, at first I wanted to deny this and when I tried, oh yes, it is pretty good! Btw, love Gabor Mate

how cool! is it paid?

I missed you all as well!!!

I know right!! I'm inclined to say it can be and-and, but also, it is a bit eery how good the bots are already now - dont know what the future holds!

sometimes I use it when I don't know how to answer to my mum to not piss her :D so I ask chatgpt if it can be a bit like Marshal Rosenberg :D

@@rozka4484 LOL yes it's very helpful for that!

i use chatgpt and Pi for the Work ok Byron Katie facilitation, for appreciation (i advise to put it on audio for full submersion, haha), for conflict resolution ideas at work. like you, i do have to guide it. I never thought of asking it to NVC with me and thank you do this video - it does tend to jump to advice after validating my feelings, so annoying, hahah. so i will straight demand NVC, also, thank you for the memory hack as it seems to forget its own advice pretty soon. excellent video, again!!!

Most AI LLMs are aligned to be very agreeable. You are essentially talking to yourself with the addition of some internet searches. When interacting with your own imagination does not result in a a tearful truth, then externalizing is helpful, even when we only externalize to collective intelligence and not another human or just to our diary. I suggest using care and recommend AIs like Claude that are aligned and trained with principles you agree with unless you are strong enough to be challenged.

haha that oman finds it very funny!

Yes, it's right here: cupofempathy.com/

thanks!

Thanks for sharing this!