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How to Break up with Friends - with NVC
🎬 How can we end friendships harmoniously with Nonviolent Communication, why is there a taboo on breaking up with friends, and how can we deal with the guilt and grief we may feel after closing off the contact with a friend - all with the use of NVC.
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How to Use Chatgpt as an NVC Listening Partner (Be Heard Instantly!)
Просмотров 2,2 тыс.14 дней назад
Here's how you use the free ai program Chatgpt to listen to you empathically with Nonviolent Communication. If you don't have anyone to talk to in a certain moment, this app will help you to be heard in an NVC way. 💡 Prompts I mentioned: Listen to me with NVC Speak informally, like a friend Have a dialogue with me, listening with NVC Ask me 5 clarifying questions before responding I might want ...
How To Do NVC with Someone Who Has Narcissism
Просмотров 3,1 тыс.Месяц назад
Email me at info@cupofempathy.com (direct it at Marianne) to learn more about how I can help for Nonviolent Communication and Narcissism. Come to my free webinar to learn more: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:49 What is Narcissism? 02:04 What causes narcissism? 02:32 How To Spot Narcissism? 04:50 How to Not Overuse the Diagnosis of Narcissism? 08:14 Does NVC work with na...
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION | Polarizing Topics - When Not To Go For A Talk
Просмотров 1,7 тыс.9 месяцев назад
FREE TRAINING Join my webinar How to talk about dividing topics: shorturl.at/wPZ46 Or any of my other live & recorded webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com COURSE Join one of my courses for beginners, advanced or romantic partners. Check them out here: cupofempathy.com/nonviolent-c... #nonviolentcommunication #NVC #cupo...
Misuse of the Term Boundaries | The Case of Jona Hill
Просмотров 4,5 тыс.Год назад
Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com Get my list of feelings & needs here : cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/ COURSE Join one of my courses for beginners, advanced or romantic partners. Check them out here: cupofempathy.com/nonviolent-c...
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION ~ 3 RESPONSES WHEN SETTING BOUNDARIES
Просмотров 9 тыс.2 года назад
When you are setting boundaries, sometimes the hardest part is to deal with the response you are getting. Here are 3 typical responses and how to work with them. Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com Get my list of feelings & needs here : cupofe...
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION - HOW TO SAY NO | HOW TO INTERRUPT & MORE
Просмотров 11 тыс.2 года назад
Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com Get my list of feelings & needs here : cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/ COURSE Join one of my courses for beginners, advanced or romantic partners. Check them out here: cupofempathy.com/nonviolent-c...
Nonviolent Communication | Dating For People Pleasers (part 1)
Просмотров 5 тыс.2 года назад
Find out what questions to ask during your first dates in order to get a partner that is healthy for you. Nonviolent Communication actually brings a certain risk when it comes to dating and I'm sharing how to overcome that risk. Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sh...
Nonviolent Communication - Feeling Anxious? Maybe There's Repressed Anger.
Просмотров 7 тыс.2 года назад
Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com Get my list of feelings & needs here : cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/ COURSE Join one of my courses for beginners, advanced or romantic partners. Check them out here: cupofempathy.com/nonviolent-c...
Nonviolent Communication | When Both You and the Other Want To Be Heard
Просмотров 4,8 тыс.3 года назад
Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com Get my list of feelings & needs here : cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/ COURSE Join one of my courses for beginners, advanced or romantic partners. Check them out here: cupofempathy.com/nonviolent-c...
Nonviolent Communication | When Your Needs Clash
Просмотров 7 тыс.3 года назад
Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com Get my list of feelings & needs here : cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/ COURSE Join one of my courses for beginners, advanced or romantic partners. Check them out here: cupofempathy.com/nonviolent-c...
Nonviolent Communication/Human Design Experiment of Emotional Generator | Intro
Просмотров 3,5 тыс.3 года назад
Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com Get my list of feelings & needs here : cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/ COURSE Join one of my courses for beginners, advanced or romantic partners. Check them out here: cupofempathy.com/nonviolent-c...
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION - 10 TIPS TO TALK ABOUT SEX (part 2)
Просмотров 2,1 тыс.3 года назад
How to address topics like erection loss, menstruation, sexual preferences..how to start talking about sex if you have never done it? How to start doing dirty talk? I'm covering it all in these 2 videos! Check out part 1 here: ruclips.net/video/jdfDqgdvBQg/видео.html Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOA...
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION - 10 TIPS TO TALK ABOUT SEX (part 1)
Просмотров 5 тыс.3 года назад
How to address topics like erection loss, menstruation, sexual preferences..how to start talking about sex if you have never done it? How to start doing dirty talk? I'm covering it all in these 2 videos! Part 2: ruclips.net/video/zx0lx1M7n9k/видео.html Listen to the podcast version here: Apple Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-connected-nvc/id1518833398 Spotify: open.spotify.com/sho...
Love is Blind - Relationship Coach Reacts | E1
Просмотров 4,2 тыс.4 года назад
Want to learn more? Pick one of the following: FREE TRAINING Join one of my webinars: cupofempathy.com/free-webinar/ FREE DOWNLOAD Download my Tough Talk Preparation Sheet: cupofempathy.com Get my list of feelings & needs here : cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/ COURSE Join one of my courses for beginners, advanced or romantic partners. Check them out here: cupofempathy.com/nonviolent-c...
EFFECTIVE REQUESTS TO PARTNER & FAMILY AROUND CORONA (BASED ON NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION)
Просмотров 7 тыс.4 года назад
EFFECTIVE REQUESTS TO PARTNER & FAMILY AROUND CORONA (BASED ON NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION)
NEED A LISTENING EAR FOR 5 MINUTES? - NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION
Просмотров 3,1 тыс.4 года назад
NEED A LISTENING EAR FOR 5 MINUTES? - NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION
HOW TO DEAL WITH JEALOUSY - THE ULTIMATE GUIDE (part 2)
Просмотров 2,5 тыс.4 года назад
HOW TO DEAL WITH JEALOUSY - THE ULTIMATE GUIDE (part 2)
HOW TO DEAL WITH JEALOUSY - THE ULTIMATE GUIDE
Просмотров 5 тыс.4 года назад
HOW TO DEAL WITH JEALOUSY - THE ULTIMATE GUIDE
Nonviolent Communication for being heard more by your partner (With one app!)
Просмотров 4,4 тыс.4 года назад
Nonviolent Communication for being heard more by your partner (With one app!)
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION FOR SAYING 'NO' TO YOUR BED PARTNER (+ My Personal Experience with it)
Просмотров 4,8 тыс.4 года назад
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION FOR SAYING 'NO' TO YOUR BED PARTNER ( My Personal Experience with it)
How to deal with resistance to the term 'Nonviolent Communication'
Просмотров 2,5 тыс.4 года назад
How to deal with resistance to the term 'Nonviolent Communication'
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION FOR PMS (Easing it for yourself and others)
Просмотров 2,1 тыс.4 года назад
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION FOR PMS (Easing it for yourself and others)
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION ~ SCARED TO HURT SOMEONE WITH YOUR MESSAGE? (5 tips)
Просмотров 12 тыс.5 лет назад
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION ~ SCARED TO HURT SOMEONE WITH YOUR MESSAGE? (5 tips)
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION: 7 TIPS WHEN YOUR PARTNER DOESN'T LIKE IT
Просмотров 6 тыс.5 лет назад
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION: 7 TIPS WHEN YOUR PARTNER DOESN'T LIKE IT
NVC - MARSHALL ROSENBERG - San Francisco Workshop (Summary in 10 Steps)
Просмотров 105 тыс.5 лет назад
NVC - MARSHALL ROSENBERG - San Francisco Workshop (Summary in 10 Steps)
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION ~ TOP 7 KEY SENTENCES
Просмотров 65 тыс.5 лет назад
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION ~ TOP 7 KEY SENTENCES
WHEN SOMEONE REFUSES TO TALK (do's and don'ts with Nonviolent Communication)
Просмотров 8 тыс.5 лет назад
WHEN SOMEONE REFUSES TO TALK (do's and don'ts with Nonviolent Communication)
HOW TO INTERRUPT WHEN SOMEONE SPEAKS LONGER THAN YOU LIKE (simple NVC formula)
Просмотров 10 тыс.5 лет назад
HOW TO INTERRUPT WHEN SOMEONE SPEAKS LONGER THAN YOU LIKE (simple NVC formula)
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION: CONFLICT RESOLUTION DEMO WITH MY BOYFRIEND
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NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION: CONFLICT RESOLUTION DEMO WITH MY BOYFRIEND
Yesss to still seeking in breakup what you never got during the friendship!! And to mourning the self abandonment. And also how painful it is that even if you try to do an nvc style breakup, you still receive judgemental interpretations from the soon ex friend - realising they don't see me at all.
It's sweet to me that you relate to it so much! thank you for sharing!
I have come to a place where I recognize the immense, immense value of my time and my presence. These things are precious diamonds and jewels that I have to offer to others. If I am not selective about where I invest my energies, if I hand my precious jewels to those who don't fully value them, then I am depriving others of the boundless joy they would experience receiving my gifts. Which of course impacts my own joyfulness as well! We grow up learning that we need to be liked by others to feel safe. We reclaim that power by learning that it's not by being "liked" by others that we feel safe, it's by realizing that we are safe to begin with, whether someone likes us or not. Sadly, very few people are able to experience this awareness.
i LOVE how you phrased this Colby! fully resonates with me!
I never knew there was a taboo on that. I've broken up with way too many friends, basically in an instant and with burning bridges. Not proud of it (healing fearful avoidant here), but I never felt there was any external opinion about it. I do remember backlash for blocking and removing comments, as if you aren't allowed to remove people from your life/field of view, and obligated to negotiate endlessly. But it always felt insane and as real as moon made of green cheese.
ah that is so interesting that you've never experienced a taboo on it. I dont know what is your gender, i wonder if it's a things amongst women..
@@CupofEmpathy I'm female. I'm just not sure how this taboo would look like. I also had my very best and dear friend breaking up with me because they decided with her therapist that I was bad for her. That loss was heavy.
Excellent ! So important and rare are the persons talking about that ! Thank you !
thanks so much!!
great video!
Thank youuuu
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This is something I’m really scared of doing. I was in many friendships were I was giving to much and receiving a little, but finally they ended by 'slow death'. I think the point about scarcity was the strongest part of your video.
ah that's good to know that this scarcity thinking might be something to explore more! thanks for your input!
One thing that helps a ton is recognizing that everything that we are saying "yes" to, as in, how we spend or direct our time, energy, and other resources, also means that we are saying "no" to something else. So if we want to have friendships that are truly nourishing and uplifting, we have to reclaim our energy from relationships that are far less serving. It's actually an act of love to both ourselves and to those around us: if our relationship with another person isn't fully serving either or both of us, than it is standing in the way, and taking the space, of something much better. When you understand what you stand FOR, it's much easier to be more selective about how we spend our time and energy. It's important to remember, it's not against anybody, it's not a reflection of anybody's worthiness or beauty as a human being, it's merely a matter of alignment.
What is your experience with friendship breakups? Has NVC been useful for you with it?
I've never done that, and I don’t think I ever imagined it was even possible.
@@nomadrose Im glad it made this video then!
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Greate first video explaining what human design is... I am looking for the follow up video's you mentioned..?
so far no follow up (yet), but thanks for letting me know that you're interested!
How much commission was paid for the video? Are we as humanity already degenerated to such an extent that we already want to have imperfect software tamper with people?
Sooo enjoyed and resonated with your hopes and excitement and humour and enthusiasm!!! Fabulous!!! Love it.
Thank you!
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Wouldn't this make us go back to the ex inadvertently?
You wonder if you'd be persuaded to go back because of a bonding exit talk, while that's not a good idea? I'd say if you're concerned about that maybe dont do it.. i think a talk like this with an ex is pretty rare. I didnt have this with any of my other exes. I stayed friends with this one :-)
Ahhhh i feel torn too. I hear commenters highlighting the addiction of the technical world. And i hear the fear that people experience because everything they do can be captured and used against them. And, sometimes it isnt possible to receive outside empathy and i struggke to connect to my own feelings and needs. So hoping this might help. That said, i asked it too many questions yesterday for the free version. 😂😂
I've never had a limit with the free version..you're using chatgpt.com/?
@@CupofEmpathy yes...😕ill do a screenshot next time I try it and share.
where can i find this feeling list of the video?
cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/
Congratulations for the quality of your presentation and thank you for having taught me that there is a recognised addiction to wealth. 😊
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Have just found NVC and thoroughly enjoyed your presentation. Thank you so much.
Glad to hear that Carol!!
I didn't want this to work as well as it did...
haha ok, why not?
@@CupofEmpathy Somehow didn't want a bot to be able to help me through some emotional challenges I was facing but it totally did. My views on A.I. were challenged! Thx for the tip, wouldn't have tried it if not for your vid :) love all your NVC tips btw.
I love this! I was already using my google ai that's on my phone sometimes, but these prompts are really helpful.
thanks so much, glad to hear that it was helpful :-)
thanks for another brilliant video. This way of using AI is new to me and I think it's so helpful that you've provided these hacks which of course are critical to getting a better experience. This looks to have so much potential to help without taking away the inestimable value of having a real person respond.
thanks a lot Anne!
I tried this and It was helpful..I got some Giraffe sentences that I would like to use in conflicting situations.
yay, happy to hear that!
I got a tip for you dear. The microphone you're using is designed to clip onto your clothes around the area of your chest. It is sensitive enough to capture every word you say even at that distance. When you hold it right in front of your mouth the sound gets distorted and it sounds like you're spitting into it. You have really beautiful hair. ♥
thanks, yeah i know, however last time when i clipped it my hair bumped against it and the sound was actually a bit soft. so this was my second attempt haha!
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Wow! Feeling all sorts of feelings right now. I've worked in schools for decades and have seen how quickly the internet has ruined human interaction. So on one hand I hate it and it's scary and it could isolate us even more (if that's possible). But on the other hand, it's better than nothing, AND I can see sharing this with school administrators so they can see how powerful it would be to train the entire staff on NVC. Thanks for sharing this. . . And for you, I don't know if you have read Gabor Mate's latest book, but the thesis is that we are all living in an unnatural world which is affecting all our our collective mental/emotional health. I wish you profound connection.
In what way did you see the internet has ruined human interaction in schools? I hear your mixed feelings! And thanks so much if you'd be willing to share this with school administrators!! Havent read the Gabor book, thanks for the recommendation.
@@CupofEmpathy Thanks for asking... briefly and quickly--- They build intimacy with machines rather than humans, scrolling and gaming as their #1 activity. They miss the electro-chemical-neurological event that happens when people meet in person. Their brain is flooded with dopamine, they have no room for serotonin. They don't know the wonderful satisfaction of 'working hard at work worth doing'. They have little appetite for a ‘normal’ life. They all believe they have an anxiety disorder because they have no skills in conversation. They have few conflict-resolution skills. Social media makes it difficult to engage in any sort of long-form discussion, so interactions are reduced to sound bites and zingers. Internet connectivity has enabled us to further leave our tribe. Instead of being very important to a few, they feel that in order to be of importance, they need to be famous. They compare themselves not with the other kids in school, but with the coolest people in the world, who have stylists and shoppers and cosmetic surgery. So, they have little appetite or satisfaction with a 'normal, humble life'. Real friendship takes a lot of work, is not as exciting as TikTok, so why bother? But probably the most heart-breaking for me. . . They cannot be vulnerable (human) because anything they do or say at any minute can be shared, permanently, across the globe, exposing them to vicious ridicule from seemingly the entire planet. So, many retreat into the safety of irony, which is the enemy of sincerity, which is the enemy of connection, which is humanity’s #1 need. And that explains the profound increase in mental health ‘disorders’. To quote Robert Bly, “We have drunk beer for so long, we’ve forgotten the taste of real wine.”
@@CupofEmpathy And Mate’s book. So many amazing ideas: On addiction: It’s hard to get enough of something that almost works. On culture: the quality of a culture is measured by how well it meets the needs of the people. Our culture is a fight between belonging and authenticity, and both are losing. The difference between happiness and pleasure Disconnection in all its guises--alienation, loneliness, loss of meaning, and dislocation--is becoming our culture’s most plentiful product. Our modern lives are unnatural from in utero to grave: from stressed mothers living away from extended family giving birth in hospitals, to eating industrial food, being raised in schools among strangers, meaningless careers focussed not on contribution but on acquisition. . . And so many more. . . And very well-written: full without being dense, at times poetic without being flowery.
Ach, feeling mixed too, at first I wanted to deny this and when I tried, oh yes, it is pretty good! Btw, love Gabor Mate
hi i don’t want to be rude but i feel the captions are flash too much and is very distracting
I made a gpt, with instructions to translate any message in NVC. You dont have to prompt it, its already programmed =)
how cool! is it paid?
I missed your videos! Happy to see you again on youtube
I missed you all as well!!!
I use chatgpt, but never thought it could be useful for my personal development. I hope it won't replace human contact.
I know right!! I'm inclined to say it can be and-and, but also, it is a bit eery how good the bots are already now - dont know what the future holds!
Are you using Chatpgt or other AI tools for NVC purposes? Any tips?
sometimes I use it when I don't know how to answer to my mum to not piss her :D so I ask chatgpt if it can be a bit like Marshal Rosenberg :D
@@rozka4484 LOL yes it's very helpful for that!
i use chatgpt and Pi for the Work ok Byron Katie facilitation, for appreciation (i advise to put it on audio for full submersion, haha), for conflict resolution ideas at work. like you, i do have to guide it. I never thought of asking it to NVC with me and thank you do this video - it does tend to jump to advice after validating my feelings, so annoying, hahah. so i will straight demand NVC, also, thank you for the memory hack as it seems to forget its own advice pretty soon. excellent video, again!!!
Most AI LLMs are aligned to be very agreeable. You are essentially talking to yourself with the addition of some internet searches. When interacting with your own imagination does not result in a a tearful truth, then externalizing is helpful, even when we only externalize to collective intelligence and not another human or just to our diary. I suggest using care and recommend AIs like Claude that are aligned and trained with principles you agree with unless you are strong enough to be challenged.
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This is great information, but it's really distracting with the music.
i am already in love ith that oman some keys on my keyborad dont ork hahaha
haha that oman finds it very funny!
😮they ignore our Boundaries.
Hi, Can we still download the TOUGH TASK PREPARATION SHEET ?
Yes, it's right here: cupofempathy.com/
This is mega!!!😊
thanks!
Can you please sit still? I actually felt nausea from the amount of rocking around in your chair you did.
I feel happy to learn these effective communication tools because it meets my needs to maintain important relationships. With regards to boundaries, if a boundary is broken for example, I will leave for the remainder of the day. It's like a temporary 'no contact' option. 💖
Thanks for sharing this!
Boring.
Does german people expressing their needs as much as open?
Formulation, Strategies are focused on the action expectations. Needs are hidden behind the actions.
That is just what need to do in a true friendship , simple and natural. it is the scenes which we can't even come across in romantic movies anymore. And we hug more and more thermoplastic stuffs instead of this true happiness